Italy's naming conventions are genuinely more formal than Northern European or American norms, particularly in workplaces, bureaucratic settings, and with older generations. A doctor, lawyer, or university graduate may be addressed as 'Dottore/Dottoressa' as a default sign of respect. That said, this varies noticeably by region, industry, and age — a startup in Milan will feel very different from a government office in Naples. In tourist-facing contexts like hotels or restaurants, staff often adapt quickly to however a visitor communicates.
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Get the Italy bundle →Italian has two forms of 'you': the informal 'tu' and the formal 'Lei' (capitalized to distinguish it from 'she'). Using 'Lei' automatically signals formality and usually pairs with surnames or titles. When someone invites you to 'darsi del tu,' they're signaling you can drop the formality — both in pronoun and often in name.
Yes, more so than many visitors expect. In Italy, anyone with a university degree (laurea) can be called Dottore or Dottoressa, not just medical doctors. Using it is considered respectful rather than over-the-top, particularly with older Italians or in southern Italy. You won't cause offence by using it when in doubt.
Generally yes — hotel staff, tour guides, and restaurant workers dealing with international visitors are used to informal international communication styles and often adopt them. Don't read this as a sign that Italian social norms broadly work the same way; it largely reflects the hospitality industry adapting to foreign guests.